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Understanding Self to Improve Relationships and Life

Understanding yourself is the cornerstone of successfully connecting with others. It allows you to become self-aware of your behaviors and actions thus improving your relationships and life.

Self-knowledge is the basis of self-awareness because it drives our attitudinal and behavioral patterns. Our thoughts and actions are based on how we see ourselves. Similarly, others see us based on our attitude and behavior patterns. These patterns are direct reflections of our self-knowledge.

Knowing yourself can help you define your values and how you see yourself. An individual with this is aware of their strengths and weaknesses, their triggers and their dreams. This self-awareness leads to making more informed, and often healthier choices in life. Since they understand themselves, they keep growing and evolving towards their better self.

Here are some ways you can start learning more about yourself:

1. Journaling
Journaling is a tool to look at yourself and reflect on specific situations. It allows you to discover your responses to the world around you and then track your patterns, your progress, and your growth. Writing down your thoughts and your emotions gives you a moment to reflect on these things and reading what you have written overtime opens a window to your soul so you can understand more about your inner world. Hindsight is always 20/20.

2. Observation
Being aware of your feelings and thoughts is the first and the most essential step. It brings you to the present, to keep you from being swept under the waves of strong emotions. Awareness brings you the recognition of a situation, of any issue, hence being the first step before you seek any solution. A brief moment of stepping back and observe yourself and situation can offer the miraculous clarity of deciding how to act and acting from a place of clarity will most likely be the right decision so you can avoid regret later on.

3. Therapy
If you are having trouble understanding yourself or processing emotions or having unresolved trauma, therapy may be the answer. A therapist will help you see the situations from different perspectives and allow you to see yourself and the problems in a different light. They can also give you tools to process and resolve certain traumatic responses. Therapy can absolutely help you to heal. I’ve always recommend people to consider therapy as an option if they have experienced traumas or they’re struggling with some mental disorders.

4. Personal Coaching or Mentor
It can be very challenging to understand ourselves and navigate our inner turmoils. We are prone to negative bias and positive thinking is not going to solve our problems. A mentor or coach can guide you to see things in a different perspective that is more wholesome and less biased. Waddling through our pain can be time consuming and difficult, having a mentor or coach to give us the right direction can be a great relief and an easy way to accelerate our personal development.

Regardless of which practice you adopt, it’s important that you start to develop self-awareness. A mindful practice is an essential that I recommend everyone. By knowing ourselves, we can be fully present in our lives so our relationships can grow and deepen. If we don’t understand ourselves and don’t make an effort for it, how do we expect others to understand us? We all want to be seen and loved for who we are, even just by one person. And the first person can be us. In fact, if we can understand ourselves honestly, everything else will fall into places.

Don’t wait until you’re successful in your career, until you’re settled with a family, start your inner journey now. Start getting to know yourself now.

When you’re ready for coaching, check out my offer to work with me here.

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Tiffany Nguyen

Tiffany Nguyen

Spiritual life coach, doctor of pharmacy, your truth telling BFF. Guiding others to reconnect and live their truths with practical and intuitive approach. Eternal weak spot for dogs and Tarot.

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